Stuck Between Two Cultures

My native country is Jamaica, but I’ve spent most of my life growing up in the states.  With that said, I was always stuck between two cultures.  My siblings and I weren’t allowed to celebrate Halloween because it wasn’t celebrated in Jamaica.  I remember my mom referring to it as “duppy holiday” (translation- ghost holiday).  That was her way of saying that it was “pure foolishness.”  We never had costumes and we never went trick-or-treating.  I think my teachers felt pity on me.  They would slip me a few extra pieces of candy, so I wouldn’t feel so bad.  I also remember getting sweet treats from the bodega in Brooklyn on my way home from school.

That was the closest my siblings and I came to celebrating this day that so many kids love.  The fact that all my friends enjoyed all the festivities didn’t help.  It used to get me upset back then, but in retrospect I’m ok with my mom’s choice in not allowing us celebrate Halloween.  Now that I have a little one, I have to make my own decisions as a mom too.  I used to say that I would carry on the Jamaican way.  But that was before having my daughter, who happens to be an American like her dad.

He grew up with all the classic American traditions including Halloween.  His mom made sure the house was decked out with all the Halloween decorations.  She also had enough candy for all the trick-or-treaters in the neighborhood, and often brought her son to the pumpkin patch.

His childhood was obviously the complete opposite of mine.  With Halloween around the corner, I’ve been back and forth with whether or not I want to celebrate with my little Princess.  This is actually her second Halloween.  Her daddy and I dressed her up as a pumpkin last year, but she pretended to sleep the whole time.

Now that she’s a little older maybe she’ll be into it a little more.  I bought this cute costume (pictured below).  I’m not sure what it is, but I’m guessing it’s a fairy.  Let me know, if you think otherwise.

We don’t plan on taking her trick-or-treating.  But, she’ll be attending a Halloween themed party.  We’ll also hang out at home and give candy to the kids.  I’ll even dress her up!  As far as Halloween decorations, I haven’t mastered that just yet.  I do plan on getting a few simple things to put in our window.

We also made our way to the pumpkin patch.  I can’t say it was a problem free day though.  She was bit cranky at times.  But you can tell by these cute pics of Princess that she did have fun, even though it was a crazy day.  I didn’t realize that pumpkin picking involved a lot of walking.  Next time we’ll have to bring along a wagon or stroller.

It was a first for Princess and me.  We may have had a few hiccups along the way, but Princess had tons of fun!  As you can see, she had fun posing with the pumpins.  We also enjoyed a nice family hay ride with grandma.

We have yet to decorate or carve our pumpkins.  In the meantime, my hubby decided to put them in our bay window.  Hey, we have to take baby steps.  We’ll slowly work our way to decking these bad boys out!


Princess is only one year old, and she won’t remember this day.  But, she’ll be able to see how much funshe had after viewing these pics.  I’m in no way rejecting my Jamaican heritage.  Instead I choose to give my daughter the opportunity to embrace her American culture.  There’s no reason why we can’t appreciate both.  

I’m happy knowing that my baby girl gets to experience what Halloween is all about.  Please share how you plan to celebrate Halloween with your little kiddos!

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  1. says

    Yall are soooo cute!! Aww, love these pumpkin patch photos! I’m trying to get my husband to come with us to a pumpkin patch this year. He’s so busy with work I’m worried he’ll try to get out of it.

  2. says

    PS: I got distracted and totally forgot to mention the origional point of this post… I think it’s great that you two are coming together for a little between how you recognized this holiday. Lil’ J will go trick or treating this year for a little while. Last year oh my gosh she got so tired, we went too far with friends and she was too small. It was just for fun walking with friends mostly though.

  3. says

    I was torn with whether or not to take Princess trick-or-treating. A friend of mine recommended that we dress her up and sit outside with candy, and have her hand them out to all the trick-or-treaters. She did that with her son a couple years ago.

    Plus, we’ll be going to a Halloween party. I want to avoid doing too much. She gets pretty exhausted and cranky. Let me know what you plan on doing. I’ll be tuning in to see pics!

  4. says

    I never celebrated halloween as a kid either. My mother said it was the devil’s holiday.
    My teachers also felt sorry for me, lol. They would bring extra costumes to school for me to wear on the party day when all the other kids in my class would dress up!

    I love the 5th pumpkin patch picture! So cute. I’m thinking of taking my kiddos to the pumpkin patch this weekend!

  5. says

    You’re lucky I never had a costume. My siblings and I were the only kids in our classes who didn’t have one on. Plus I was one of 2 black kids in my 1st grade class. You should definitely take your kids. Don’t forget the wagon! Something we should have had.

  6. Lorraine says

    Excellent topic Weather Anchor Mama… Having come from Jamaica myself, there was definitely no Halloween celebration in our household growing up there. I migrated here much older and when I had my son who’s now 17, he was definitely involved in the celebrations then. Now, he isn’t as enthused –
    In my opinion, it’s a wonderful activity for a family and makes for great teachable moments.