It’s been almost a year since I decided to ditch the relaxer. I don’t normally do monthly length checks or anything. But, I do have a general idea of how long my hair has grown over the last 11 months months. Right now, it’s about five inches or so. Braid-outs have become my style of choice.
Aside from the big change in length, I’ve had to grow accustom to my natural texture. It’s taken me years to feel this comfortable about my tightly coiled curls. It’s super fragile and can break very easily. But with the right care, it has the potential to grow just like any other hair type. Through careful research and trial and error, I’ve learned so much. However, sharing my experience with other ladies in my shoes is where I find support through this journey.
Like how most guys love chatting about sports, we love yapping about our hair and the products we use. I find it interesting that some women don’t embrace their natural texture. Some would go as far as comparing their own texture to another person. I’ve heard people say, “She got that good grade of hair. I wish I had hair like that.” I can’t exactly hate on them for thinking that though. Long before I decided to transition, I used to feel that way too. I remember hearing my hairdresser compare my hair to my sister’s, and I hated it. In fact, I grew to dislike my hair and found myself always yearning to have thick straight hair. I thought the relaxer would cover up my insecurities. Boy, was I wrong. It made it worse. Fast forward to now, I couldn’t be happier with my hair in its natural state. I’ve learned to embrace every strand on my head. I don’t envy other women with loose curls, straight, or wavy hair. As long as I have healthy hair, that’s all that matters. For all you ladies out there who wish for that “good grade of hair,” just look in the mirror.