Being a mom is the most important role I’ll ever have. But I also love having a career too, which sometimes leaves me feeling torn. Just when I thought I was getting this balancing career and motherhood thing down pat, life decides to throw me a curve ball. One of the hardest things about parenthood is having to decide between work and family, especially when it comes to Mother’s Day.
I recently found out that the kids’ school will be holding a tea party to celebrate the holiday. I just about died when I realize that I wouldn’t be able to attend because of my work schedule. We just got back from vacation not too long ago, and I plan on taking more days during the summer. With such short notice, there’s really nothing I can do – aside from feeling immense guilt, of course.
Baby O will have no recollection of tea time with Mommy when he gets older. However, his sister may remember. I would hate for Princess to be the only kid without a mom there. I remember that feeling of being the only kid without ‘blank,’ and it sucked! You’re probably thinking that she’ll get over it and you’re right. But, I won’t. Besides, I wouldn’t want to start a trend of missing out important events in my children’s lives all the time.
I work in an industry that can be very demanding. When severe weather hits, I could easily be assigned to report to the station until whenever. That’s what I signed up for and I get it. But, I’m still human. It breaks my heart knowing I’ll miss this day.
My hubby and I have been brainstorming options. “I can always ask my boss if I can come in a little late, and stop by before tea time,” I suggested.
“What’s the point in showing up and leaving before the tea party? Why not just get to work for five?” he asked.
“It doesn’t really work that way. I have a 6PM newscast, and need time to prepare,” I responded.
We continued to bounce different ideas around including asking my Mom or sis to sub, or have my hubby go in my place. We finally settled on asking his mom to attend her tea party, and she said yes.
I’m still bummed that I won’t be able to make it. But, Princess will be excited have Grandma there to share a spot of tea with her. It’ll be a special surprise.
At the end of the day, we can only do the best we can and try not to feel guilty about the decisions we make as parents. I always knew being a mom would be tough, but jeez.
Do you ever feel guilty about not making your child’s events?
Awww…I can only imagine how you feel. I’d be heart broken. Your job is also important and it sounds like you have made the necessary arrangements to make sure your little girl still feels loved.
Stacy, you and princess can do one at home. Dad can join in. Also you can add some fun stuff such as, nail painting.