Beware of Protective Styles

If I knew that going natural would mean years of heartache and losing my hair, I would have reevaluated my decision to ditch the relaxer. The plan was to take advantage of protective styles so that my hair could grow back. So far, it’s been more like operation fail–sort of.two years post relaxer

Flashbacks of my straight hair flowing down my back have been taking over my brain lately. Please tell me why I decided to go natural! It ain’t nothin’ but work. All it took was a wash, set, wrap and go with an occasional deep conditioning and oil treatment. But, what I considered to be a no fuss no mess hair routine has turned into nothing but drama. Now that I’m au naturale, I have a whole slew of issues with my new old texture.

You’re probably so sick of me complaining about by barely there edges. But please understand that writing about it is like therapy for me. Hey, maybe my situation can help someone who may be tackling a similar issue. Who knows?

In any event, in my previous hair post I confessed the possible reason for my hair dilemma. I’ve been taking the necessary steps to get back my hairline, including keeping the area well moisturized and wearing a satin scarf underneath my wig. Recently, I discovered another problem–braids.

Since becoming a natural, I experimented with different dos from twist outs to braid outs. The former didn’t work so well for me. But I’ve had some pretty good results with the latter.

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Braid outs are great at stretching and defining my curls. The plan is to continue wearing a wig until my grows out a bit more. I grapple with that decision sometimes because I like the idea of very low manipulation. My on-air job requires styling and whatnot. I don’t want to apply any heat and I don’t want to straighten my natural hair. However, after realizing a tiny bald spot in my head, I’ve been thinking a lot about just letting it all hang out.

Even though I’m extra careful not to pull too tight, the tension has cause some of my strands to go bye bye. I’ve heard it referred to as traction or tension alopecia. It’s frustrating. It’s annoying. But, I know this is all apart of the process. There are gonna be some bumpy spots along this natural hair journey, and I’m prepared for it. I know it will all be worth it in the end.

Whether you’re a natural or not, beware of weaves, extension, wigs, braids etc. All it takes is just a little tension for you to lose hair.

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New Hair New Me

My hair journey has hit a little bit of a snag these past couple of months. But, that’s to be expected. It’s interesting how your hair reacts to whatever it is you could be going through. Stress, pregnancy, post pregnancy, nutrition or lack there of — you name it. Despite our trials and tribulations, my hair and I have a great relationship. But our bond wasn’t always solid.

It took me a while to fully embrace my locks. I remember getting so frustrated because my hair wasn’t naturally straight. I hated the way it felt. I couldn’t run my fingers through my hair like those white girls. I remember looking at them and saying, “Damn, why can’t I have hair like that?”

I used to complain about my new growth. My mom would remind me that was my natural hair. I was like, “whatever.” I hated it. I used to beg her to take me to Brooklyn to get my touch up every eight weeks. It was a half hour commute, there was no way I could get there on my own. At 14, I was too young to drive. By the time I was 16, I wasn’t really allowed to drive that far. Needless to say, I was at her mercy.

I’ll never forget the time when I needed to have my senior pictures taken. I begged my mom to take me to the hairdresser to get a relaxer and a cute style. I can’t remember the reason, but she said no. I was pissed!! She insisted on doing it herself. My anger eventually turned to misery. My begging did nothing to change her mind, and I had no choice but to give in. It was either go to school a hot mess and have those horrendous senior pictures for life, or suck it up and have her wash and curl my hair. I chose the latter.

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Looking back, I realized that my hair had thinned out so much. My hairdresser had chopped off all the damaged ends a few months prior to taking this photo. My hair continued that same cycle after graduation. I’d get a touch up every few months. It would grow, then I’d have to cut it off, and start over because of heat damage.

Fast forward to my modeling career. Each time I’d book a gig, I’d get nervous about clients wanting to do something to my hair. “Are you willing to cut or color your hair?” That was the typical question asked at all the go-sees. As a model, you never want to be looked at as hard to work with. That was the title given to many girls who didn’t do what the client recommended. I never had to cut or color my hair for a job, but there was always a lot of pulling, weaving, and heat applied during those photo shoots. My hair took a beating. I learned a valuable lesson during that time, which prepared me for my career in television.

 

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I got my big break as the traffic chick for one of the top stations in NYC. I found myself right back at that same place. The hairstylists had ideas for my hair, and I was just not having it. Unlike the situation with my mom, I chose to look a hot mess. My hair had gone through so much that I couldn’t chance it.

I was still getting a touch up every two to three months. I’d wash, roller set, and wrap my hair every weekend. The first few days of the week my hair was flawless. But by midweek, it started to look flat because of my workouts. I gave in to the stations hairstylists on a few occasions, which had negative outcomes. Slowly my hair continued to chip away. Again, periodically I would have to cut off damaged ends and start all over.

Those days are behind me. Now I’m in a much better space. I finally decided to ditch the relaxer in February 2012, and haven’t looked back since. My hair has never felt or looked better. I must admit I was a bit apprehensive when it came to sporting my teeny weeny afro because I’ve always enjoyed having long hair. It’s been a couple of years and my hair is now shoulder length (when stretched). I still wear a wig on-air, but I love rockin’ my natural locks when I’m not working.

I’ve received encouragement from viewers to lose the wig all together. But, I’m not ready for that just yet. I do, however, enjoy the versatility in how I style my hair. Wigs offer a great protective style option. But let’s get one thing straight, I love my hair. Each day I become more amazed at the progress it’s has made, and I’m so glad I made the decision to return to my natural roots. I feel like a whole new me.

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Ahhh…I’m Losing My Hair Again!

Just when I thought I had this natural hair journey thing on lock, the hair gods have thrown me a curve ball. I’m losing my hair again!

My last hair conundrum almost left me in tears. It was also a part of the reason why I decided to go au naturale – my daughter being the primary reason. I basically started all over.

With the help of my hubby, I chopped off all my hair to a teeny weeny fro (aka twa). It was one of the best last minute decisions I’ve ever made, and my locks never looked so good.

Wigs have become my go to protective style option during the week, and I usually sport a braidout on weekends. My hair has been getting much needed rest and tlc. In fact, avoiding heat and chemicals has allowed it to grow so much. It’s hard to tell by this photo, but my hair is actually shoulder length.

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So you can imagine my surprise when I started noticing that my hairline disappearing.

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This time I’m confused. I know it’s normal to shed hair post pregnancy. But, this is ridiculous. I’ve been taking my vitamins religiously, and eating right. I guess my hormones have a completely different plan.

It’s a bit disheartening, but I won’t stress over it. It’s only temporary.

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Balancing Natural Hair Care and Motherhood

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Balancing natural hair care and motherhood can be quite the challenge. Since becoming a natural, I’ve managed to work out the perfect routine. As a mom of one, Sunday has always been my designated hair day.

The usual process involves four steps including:

  1. Shampooing
  2. Conditioning and finger detangling in sections
  3. Applying a leave-in condition and moisturizer
  4. Finger detangling and style

This daylong process worked well until the recent birth of my son. With a tot and a newborn, there’s very little time to dedicate to my hair. Oh, did I mention that I’m still in school? I find myself juggling nursing in between exams, cooking, cleaning, among my many other responsibilities.

I thought that being on maternity leave would free up my time. Nowadays, I barely have a moment to go to the bathroom. I’ve been so excited to try new products and also make some myself. But I don’t have time to even style my locks, much less experiment with anything! So, I’ve put together a whole new routine that works for my hectic schedule. Rather than designate an entire day to hair care, I’ve decided to stretch out my regimen over the course of a few days.

I normally cleanse my hair over the kitchen sink. But, now I’ve resorted to making it apart of my 15-minute shower. By the time I get out of the tub there’s usually a child demanding my attention, so forget about conditioning! I get so swamped that I have to put that off for the following day. In the meantime, I’d apply a natural oil to keep my hair moisturized.

I re-wet my hair either in the shower or over the sink the next day. Then I apply my deep conditioning mask as I finger detangle, which takes a half hour on average. I leave each section in medium size braids. If I have a quick errand to run, I’d slap on my wig cap, throw on my curly wig, and bounce with my kid(s) in tow.

I’m able to complete the last two steps on day three. Applying the leave in conditioner and moisturizer is always a snap. I do this by mixing a concoction with water in a spray bottle. I’m able to style during naptime, which is probably the longest part of the process. It can take a couple of hours depending on other family and household duties.

I prefer to rock a braid-out over a twist-out because it gives my coarse texture more definition. I use a rat-tail comb to part my hair in small sections, spray on my conditioning mix, and braid. I let my hair air dry, and then I’m done! I don’t mind sporting my braided do in public. But sometimes I’ll wear my wig, if I have an important engagement. I may also unravel my locks and throw on a headband for a cool wavy natural look. It all depends on the mood I’m in.

This may seem like a really long process. But, it’s the only way I’m able to balance hair care and motherhood right now. I find it much easier to manage my hair care regimen over the course of a few days. It takes the hassle out of my routine, and most importantly, I avoid putting stress on my hair. I’d much rather take my time than try and cram everything in all at once.

How do you balance hair care and motherhood?

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How I’m Feelin’

I know I’ve been going heavy with all these hair posts. But, please understand that this is a huge deal for me. I’ll still continue post cute pics of Princess and share our many mommy daughter adventures. I’ll also be sure to sound off on different things going on in my life as well as in the news. In addition, I plan on giving you updates on my transition journey. This blog is all about balancing my career in front of the camera with my life as a wife and mom behind the lens, and the many other things that I juggle. Please feel free to share your comment and your stories too.

It’s been almost seven days since I got rid of my relaxed ends. Here’s how I’m feelin’

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What You Should Know About Transition

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