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I don’t usually judge other peoples relationships.  But when it comes to Chris Brown and Rihanna, I have throw in my two sense.  There have been numerous reports that the two may be back on again.  For those of you who may be new to this story, let me fill you in.  The R&B singers made headlines  as a result of a physical altercation that left Rihanna badly brused on the eve of the Grammys in 2009. According to a NY Daily News article, they were recently spotted sneaking off into NYC club bathroom together.  The songstress even admitted to still being in love with Brown in a recent Oprah interview.

As a girl who’s been in her situation, I completely understand how hard it is to walk away.  But, I also feel that these love birds are going down the wrong path.  Many may disagree with me and that’s ok.  However I strongly believe that as a woman, Rihanna is setting a bad example.  There are other young girls who may be going through similar situations and I feel that Rihanna is basically saying it’s ok to go back to the guy who beat you.  Despite my distaste, I do feel sorry for the both of them.

Brown stated in his Larry King interview that he witnessed abuse inside the home as a child.  Rihanna also admitted to growing up seeing her mom being hit by her dad.  The one common denominator is that they both witnessed abuse as kids, and that’s sad.  A healthy relationship begins at home and I strongly believe that it starts with the parents.

I am so thankful that my hubby and I have a healthy relationship.  I can’t front though.  There are times when we argue.  But, it’s normal to have disagreements.  The important thing is that we work through them for our family’s sake.  Our daughter looks up to us.

We plan to have an open dialogue with her, especially when it comes to subject matters like this.  Princess has a while before she starts dating.  But when she does, we’re gonna teach her that no one has the right to put their hands on her.  If they do, there will be consequences.

I was able to walk away.  I hope both Rihanna and Chris Brown can one day do the same.

Do you think a Chris Brown and Rhianna reconciliation sets a bad example for our youth? Do you think that she should just forgive and forget?

Weather Anchor Mama

I knew this day would come! I’m always being asked if my daughter is closer to my hubby.

I’ve realized that some people will say the weirdest things.  When they do, I usually smile and keep it moving.

What bugs me is when a complete stranger compares my kid with their kid.  A woman says to me, “your daughter is a little lady.”  I respond, “thanks, so is she,” (referring to the toddler she is with.  I don’t know if there’s any relation between them).  Then the conversation took a turn for the weird.

Lady: “No she’s not a lady.  She’s rough around the edges.”

I find it strange when people diss their own kid (in this case, I’m not sure their of relation).  She goes on to say:

Lady: “She’ll play football. Your daughter will do dance.”
Me: “Oh.”  (What else was I suppose to say?)
Lady: “She’ll play the drums.  Your daughter will play the violin.”

Me: Silence.  I’m getting annoyed. But, I smile and remain composed.

Lady: “She’s a tomboy.  You daughter is a girly girl.  She’ll want to paint her nails.”

Me: Silence. Okay, I’ve had enough!

I don’t think this woman means any harm.  But, it’s just a weird conversation.  We’ve never met before, and she feels compelled to start drawing comparisons between the girls?!  My take- just let kids be kids.  They are here to have fun!  Who cares about what their gonna be doing years down the road?  They’re only toddlers.  Besides, I don’t even know you!

For the record- if Princess wants to play the drums, then she’ll play the drums and anything else she wants to do (within reason of course).  She’s way too young for me to put her in any sort of category and I’m her mom.  So when a complete stranger does it, it’s just inappropriate and uncomfortable to listen to.

How do you feel about people comparing your kid to theirs?

Weather Anchor Mama