What Message Am I Sending My Preschooler?

It’s crazy how much of myself I see in my daughter. Whenever she goes through one of her “I think I’m grown moods,” my Mom or Hubby (sometimes both) are quick to chime in saying, “She gets it from you!”

How can I argue with that? They’re absolutely right. That said, I’ve been thinking a lot about the message I send my kids, especially my daughter.

I often write about my natural hair journey, and the reason behind it. In case you’re new to my blog, I decided to go natural two years ago because I want to set a good example for my kids. I also had a lot of damage from relaxing my hair. Since then, I’ve been sporting my God given curls off-camera, but you can still find me wearing my wig on-camera.

Princess has grown accustom to the switch, but the other day she threw me for a loop when she asked if she could try it on my wigs.

“Am I perpetuating that fake hair is better by letting try it on?” I asked myself. Rather than over think the situation, I got one of the wigs from my room and place it on her head. She giggled and pranced around the house showing off her new look to Daddy. She tried on one after another, and the little comedian she is started impersonating me.

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true indian hair

We couldn’t stop laughing. But, I later went back to thinking about the message I’m sending. Does she think mommy wears a wig because she doesn’t like her own hair? Is she going to want to change her hair too? I know you’re probably thinking I’m over analyzing the situation, and you may be right.

But just for kicks, I decided to ask her what she thinks of Mommy wigs.
“Do you like Mommy’s wig?” I asked.
Grinning from ear to ear, “yeah,” she responded.
“Do you like Mommy’s real hair?” I asked.
Still smiling she said, “Yeah.”
“Which do you like better?” I asked.
“I like them both,” she replied.
“Me too,” I said.

So there you have it. She likes them both and she loves her curls too. I guess that puts all my concerns to rest. She had fun playing dress up.

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3 Easy Ways to Grow and Tame Your Hairline

If you’ve been following my blog and vlog, then you know that I’ve been having some serious hair issues. Since my hair loss announcement, and I’m happy to say that I’ve been making some progress. I’ve got my edges back!

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Okay, I admit that I have a ways to go, but it’s progress. I can’t complain because my hairline has come a long way. I’ve taken the necessary steps to promote growth. Thanks to those who chimed in with their advice and remedies.

Here’s what I’ve been doing to regrow my edges.

1. Moisturize. I have extremely dry hair and it tends to break easily. I apply oils throughout my hair and edges in the morning and night. I share some of my favorite oils on my YouTube channel.

2. I traded in my wig cap for a satin scarf. As I mentioned, I wear a wig at work. My hair has been through a lot of damage before I decided to go natural. Wig offers protective styling, but it can also lead to breakage. I think my hair loss was due to my hormones going out of whack as a result of my pregnancy. However, the wig cap didn’t help the situation. I also sleep with a satin scarf to protect my hair from drying out at night.

3. Avoid brushes and combs. Brushes can be hard on my hairline. I’d rather use my hands to smooth the area and then put my satin scarf to tame it.

 

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Is My Baby Really Talking or is He Babbling?

It never occurred to me that an infant can talk. I’m not just referring to meaningless baby babble. I’m talking about real words. I tackled this subject on my BabyCenter blog.

A couple of weeks ago Baby O, now seven months old, uttered the word “dada.” My husband and I figured he was just making sounds, as he had been for months. But the other day I happened to be studying while he played quietly on the floor. He started fussing, and I looked over at him. With his light brown eyes widened and his arms stretched above his head, I could have sworn I heard him say the word, “mama.”

“Was this for real,” I asked myself.

I called out from downstairs to my husband saying, “I think he said mama!”

I picked up the baby and repeated myself as I went upstairs. That’s when my husband shot me the “yeah right look.” Normally I’d agree with him, but there was something different about the way Baby O said it. It was as if he wanted my attention.

I shared this piece of information with a couple of other moms I know, and they seem to agree. They told me about the words their babies were saying too. I’ve heard of infants being able to learn sign language. But, I thought speech development normally occurs later. Were we a bunch of delusional mamas or was there some truth to this. I did a little research of my own and stumbled across an article about baby talk.

According to the BabyCenter Medical Advisory Board, a baby begins by using “the tongue, lips, palate, and any emerging teeth to make sounds. Soon those sounds will become real words – “mama” and “dada” may slip out and bring tears to your eyes as early as 6 months.”

I now realized that my baby boy knows exactly who I am and what that word means. It melts my heart every time I think about it.

 baby o

baby o

baby o

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How to Choose a Breast Pump That’s Right for You

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Nursing and pumping has become a huge part of my daily routine. That said, choosing the right breast pump is extremely important.

I’m breastfeeding for a second time, and recently received pump number three. So, I consider myself somewhat of a breastfeeding and pumping connoisseur. I’ve shared tips and tricks to maintaining milk supply, and how to choose a breast pump that’s right for you.

I know that nursing and pumping isn’t for everyone. But, I took the liberty of reviewing a few breast pumps that you may find helpful.

Please don’t forget to give my video a thumbs up and subscribe. Also, you can enter to win a Lansinoh Signature Pro Double Electric Breast Pump, bottle, and pumping, by clicking here!

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Sibling Love

One of the things I love most about my daughter is her carefree spirit. She’s the kind of kid that loves to have fun. If I’m feeling down, she always knows just what to say to make me laugh. She’s like that with Baby O too.

Whenever he cries, she sings to him. “Jelly jelly jelly jelly, you’re my favorite jelly” is just one of the many songs she dedicates to Baby O. I asked where she heard it, and she claims she made it up.

sibling love

siblings

Made up or not, it seems to do the trick. He usually stops crying. It’s great to see the strong bond that they’ve formed  in such a short period of time. “Make sure you have each other’s back,” I always say. It’s obvious that they do.

I know that when they get older they’ll have arguments, but that’s something most siblings go through. But, I know they’ll always be tight. That’s what I hope, anyway.

How close are your kids? Do they argue a lot?

 

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I am Beautiful Project

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I tell my kids they’re is smart, beautiful, and talented practically everyday. I do this because it’s true. I do this because I want them to know their worth. I think it’s important our children know how great they are so that they can be confident in themselves. As much as I reinforce these positive traits, something makes me think about my own self-esteem. Do they ever see Mommy pointing out her flaws?

It’s been tough losing the postpartum belly bulge. Sometimes I’ll squeeze it in the mirror, thinking somehow it’ll shrink. Even though they aren’t in the room, I realize that what I’m doing is not good. I’m sure that most women can agree that we can be self deprecating at times. But, it may be sending the wrong message.

Rather than put myself down, I say “I look great.” My husband – the stud that he is – always compliments me on how fantastic I look too. I’m glad that my children are able to see this because I want them to be able to build positive relationships with their spouses some day. But most importantly, I want them to be confident in who they are and their abilities, so that their kids can also be confident.

With that said, I hope that every parent does the same. Tell your kids how beautiful they are, and tell yourself how beautiful you are. I came across this YouTube video called “I am Beautiful Project” and it inspired me to write this post. Please feel free to share. It has a very powerful message.

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