The idea of praising young children has become a trending topic in the news recently. Some feel that it’s a good idea to tell kids how great they’re doing to help motivate them to become better at a task. But others argue that praising a child could backfire and lead to failure in the long run.
Everyday Princess shows off her artwork. My usual response – “I love it! Great job.” This is a drawing she’d done about a year ago.
Honestly, my mind was in the gutter after seeing it, but she said it’s a Popsicle – one of her favorite treats.
Princess has become quite an artist. When she drew a butterfly, I was amazed at how great it came out. “This looks great. Good job. Let’s find a place for it on the fridge,” I said.
Here’s another picture she made me for my birthday.
The same praises go for Young O. He’s at the point where he’s beginning to speak and understand a lot. The other day I asked him to clean up his play area. He said “okay” and began putting his Legos in the box. When he was done cleaning, I gave him a kiss and said, “Good job.”
I never considered praising my child for a job well done a bad thing. In fact, I think it’s great to let people know they’ve done well. It makes me feel good when I hear, “You do a great job with the weather!” I can’t front, it’s a nice boost to the ego, and makes me want to continue doing a great job. But, I’m also okay with being told I need to improve on something to get better results with my forecasts.
That same sentiment is also indicative in the way I parent. I wouldn’t consider myself a tiger mom. But as much as I praise my kids, I have no problems telling them they need to try harder. Whether it’s being lackadaisical at dance class or not completing an assignment properly, I have no problems keeping it 100.
I think it all boils down to balance. If kids do a great job, praise them! If they need to work on something, be honest and tell them what they need to do to make it better. Finding that middle ground will motive them and lead them to success.
Do you think praising young children is a good of bad idea?
I dont think it is bad to praise kids. I think it helps build confidence. I am pro-praise. 🙂
Me too! It does build confidence.
I definitely think it’s great to let kids know when they’ve done something well. I think it helps to not only encourage them in other areas of life, but it helps them to determine what they’re good at. Of course, letting them know when they could use a little improvement is critical too. Like you said, it’s all about balance.
I’m pro-praise, but not for every little thing. I agree with you that kids also need to hear constructive criticism. Funny, my daughter has drawn a few popsicles just like your daughter. My mind was ‘in the gutter’ also.
I think you got it just right. Praises when they do well and honest correction and pushes in the right direction when improvement is needed. Encouragement can be used both to praise and correct behavior. There is no reason to be negative or discouraging with children at all.