I read a post the other day that got me asking the question, am I an agist?
The author reveals how she feels less valuable or even invisible in her 50s, than in her 20s and 30s. She asks why a person would you ask another “‘newbie’ for advice instead of older women who have been there/handled that?” She also questions why she’s often ignored by younger women. This post makes me think about my own actions and how I view the older women in my life.
I can’t front, there are times when I’d have a question about something baby related, and I’d call up a friend. I don’t avoid calling my mom on purpose. The only reason why I do it is because it’s great to compare notes with someone who’s going through the same things at the same time. It’s sorta like taking the same class. So much has changed since we were babies. There are new health codes, recalls etc. A lot of my questions are also geared toward post millennium stuff.
I know that my mom is there when I need her. She’s also takes care of Princess every day. If she’s sick, Grandma offers suggestions. But she doesn’t overdue it, and I appreciate that. My mom has done a great job raising the four of us, and now it’s time for me to be a mommy. I won’t claim to know everything. I may stumble along the way, and that’s okay.
If ever I need advice about anything, I know that I can hit up the women over 50 in my life – who have all been there/handled that.
Do you prefer to get advice from your mama peers or midlife mamas?
Weather Anchor Mama
Hm, I guess I’m the opposite. My mom (or even my dad) is the first I’m calling for advice. If I just want to chat about anything baby/kid-related or find out what someone else may be doing then I’ll call up friends. But yea, for any what should I do moments, definitely calling up the been there done thats of past generations.